Category: motivation

  • Writing Genes

    Writing was not my decision. It was my destiny.

    As a 7-year-old, I would read the daily newspaper—The Washington Post—not even understanding much of it but drawn to it. The words, the stories, the things I could learn.

    My grandfather was an avid reader, reading a novel a day in his retirement. He is one of the many of The Great War who may have gone on to do great things in life had his life not been interrupted as a teenager by being sent overseas to kill and to try and stay alive under insane circumstances.

    Both my parents were English majors, having met at Hofstra University in a Shakespeare class. My father used to say that the famous writer, filmmaker, and director Francis Ford Coppola worked for him at one point. Last week, in thumbing through a 1958 Nexus college yearbook, I saw that my dad’s claim was more than a tall tale. There is is, in black and white: Editor-in-Chief -Edward Ormond, and Music-Drama Editor – Francis Ford Coppola.

    Both Dad and Francis worked for the quarterly literary journal, the WORD. I loved the images in the yearbook of this studious but fun group who appear as if their jobs were the most important on the campus.

    My father went on to write three full-length plays, which he later produced, directed, and even acted in. He wrote many one-act plays, and he did all this while working full-time as a planner at the Pentagon. I wonder what life would have been like for him if he had been able to write full time. He certainly had the talent.

    But that’s only one side of my story. My mother, Flo Ormond, wrote, too. Starting in advertising in New York, she then moved to government work to follow my father in his early naval career. She was a brilliant publicist and found ways to let everyone in the community know about the local theater company my parents belonged to and about that theater’s productions. She ended up monetizing her writing talent by becoming a technical writer and editor for the Federal Aviation Administration and the National Aeronautical and Space Administration, better known as NASA.

    It’s no wonder I chose to be an English major in college, which later expanded to an English and Mass Communications major. My father unfortunately passed before I wrote my first book, but my mother was there to support me in what became my second career as a writer. I’m not sure I could have done it without her.

    Some people fight their destinies, while others embrace them. Although my first career as a naval officer was far more practical than my second as a writer, I believe the writer in me was always there. And now, in the final stretch of my life, I get to come full circle and read like my grandfather did, write like both my parents did, and learn every day from the words and people around me. And just maybe, I can be lucky enough to encourage others to share their words, too.

    Life has a way of reminding us what we should be doing. There’s a reason I stumbled across that 68-year-old yearbook this week, reminding me that words are a big part of who I am. In the words of Francis Ford Coppola himself:

    “You have to really be courageous about your instincts and your ideas. Otherwise you’ll just knuckle under, and things that might have been memorable will be lost.”

    I couldn’t agree more with this famous icon whom I never met, but who shared a place and time with my father in the New York literary scene.

  • When Passion Fuels Writing, it Shows

    Logo for NFPW at Large Award Winner 2026 featuring a feather and elegant typography.

    March turned out to be a lucky month for me, and I found a pot of gold at the end of a rainbow. The National Federation of Press Women (NFPW) informed me I’d won three awards in their 2026 At-Large Professional Contest in three different categories. I wasn’t sure why this affected me so much, so I worked through it in writing and hope some of the thoughts might help other writers.

    1.

    Graphic certificate for 1st place in the National Federation of Press Women At-Large Professional Contest 2026, featuring a gold seal and the title 'Connecting the Dots' with a judge's comment highlighting its excellence.

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    Holy cow—nice words—thank you!

    Why it Matters

    One of my writing mentors once said, “When passion fuels writing, it shows.”

    I was fiercely passionate about the “Connecting the Dots” story. I wrote about the military assignment where I believed I made the most significant impacts of my career. I appreciate being able to share this honor with my former Joint Intelligence Task Force – Combating Terrorism (JITF-CT) teammates. The story appeared in the Military Writers Society of America’s Reflections: Service to our Country anthology.

    Lessons Learned

    • If you care, it shows
    • Write from your heart
    • Gather good quotes from trusted sources

    2.

    Graphic announcing that the Military Writers Society of America’s Dispatches magazine won a first place award for editing from the National Federation of Press Women for Summer 2025. Features a cover image of Dispatches and the NFPW award logo.

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    I dedicated this issue of Dispatches magazine to Vietnam veterans, their families, and those who support them at the fiftieth year commemoration of the war. The judge’s comments helped me think I’m on the right track.

    Why it Matters

    I took over editing this magazine as a volunteer effort after the three previous editors quit. I had no “pass down” (as we called it in the Navy) and lived through a big learning curve. I made changes I thought would help and have had the pleasure of helping veterans and military families tell their stories—many published for the first time.

    Lessons Learned

    • If taking on  a newsletter or magazine, have an organizational plan. Here is a previous blog post on that subject: https://valerieormond.com/2025/07/21/five-magazine-management-tips/
    • Although a volunteer effort, my heart sings when members appreciate having their stories or poems published
    • Rely on wonderful magazine and book designers like the most-patient Andrea Reider of Reider Books and who has made my job easier and the outcome award-winning

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    A digital award certificate from the National Federation of Press Women (NFPW) for the At-Large Winner 2026, featuring an honorable mention. The document includes a section titled 'The Writing Craft' with an article excerpt titled 'Song Lyrics - Risky Business' by Valerie Ormond. It showcases judge comments praising the writing style.

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    I entered the “Song Lyrics – Risky Business” article into the competition at the last minute for some reason. My first version was—well, boring. I decided to add a little humor, which made it more fun and a better read.

    Why it Matters

    I wrote this short article after being part of writers groups and seeing and hearing people using song lyrics in their stories and books, unaware of the copyright issues involved.

    Lessons Learned

    • Even if it hadn’t won an award, it was information I thought fellow writers should be aware of
    • If a story isn’t working, look for another way to approach it that may work
    • Have fun with writing and presenting stories

    I hope something here may be useful for other writers and editors and thank the awards judges for their valuable time and feedback.

  • Realizing a Life Well-Lived (from the Ejection Seat)

    Valerie Ormond ready to fly off the USS Abraham Lincoln (CVN-72),in the ES-3A , Indian Ocean, 1995

    I looked out the window and knew if I died that day, I still lived a full life.

    It surprised me how calm that thought made me – almost peaceful.

    After grasping the severity of the situation, my body and brain filled with warm thoughts, and I understood how blessed my short life had been compared with the longer lives of so many others.

    I had no regrets.

    When assigned as an intelligence officer to a naval aviation squadron, I had the opportunity to earn my passenger flight qualifications. That meant if I needed to, I could fly in the back seat of our squadron’s jets.

    I attended naval aviation physiology training and didn’t drown, so several months later I found myself launched off the USS Abraham Lincoln aircraft carrier in the Indian Ocean experiencing a triple flight emergency.

    With my limited aviation knowledge, I knew from the visible and audible signs that things weren’t looking up.

    “Skids…we’re going to have to bring you in very straight and slow…did you hear me? Veeerrryyy straight and slow,” cracked the voice from the ship. I knew this stoic speaker and never heard this voice.

    “Roger, Boss,” replied the pilot. No quiver in the voice, but pure tension.

    The naval flight officer turned to me, and his voice reverberated in my helmet communication system.

    “You remember the ejection sequence, right?”

    I tried to say yes, but fortunately nodded instead conveying the same. While I didn’t have a great technical understanding of our squadron’s ES-3A aircraft, I remembered the low odds of surviving an ejection in this aircraft on the approach to an aircraft carrier.

    But as I looked out the window again, listening to the nervous chatter on the box, I knew if I survived I would have a totally different perspective on life.

    I thought about all the things that had been bothering me and stressing me out and realized their trivial nature. I gained a fast sense of prioritization and a deep appreciation of the important aspects of life.

    It took ten minutes to sort out a lifetime of experiences and learning.

    Following a harrowing carrier landing, I took a deep breath, enjoyed life, and recognized my good fortune of having the chance to appreciate this new outlook.

    Once I gained an understanding of my well-lived life, I saw every additional day as a bonus, and a day to make a difference and make it count.

    This post originally appeared in writer Jeff Goins’ blog  “Wrecked – When a Broken World Slams into Your Comfortable Life.”

  • The Power of Writing Prompts

    I love writing prompts because they both force me and free me to create stories or poems I may not have otherwise considered. The “freewriting” nature of most prompt exercises tames my inner editor. I’m also usually thinking no one will ever read what I’m writing, so I stretch my writing muscle and imagination. Due to the short timeframe for most writing prompt requirements, I usually look back at the rough draft of the finished product and consider the outcome as time well spent.

    Ten years ago, I participated in about a fun contest at Writing.com. The 15 for 15 Contest challenged writers to respond to writing prompts (photos) for 15 straight days writing for no more than 15 minutes each day. Per Writing.com:

    This contest is for writers
    who may only have a little
    time on their hands
    but a lot of creative ideas
    bubbling around in their heads.

     All you will need is 15 minutes a day for 15 days

    I highly recommend these types of activities and contests for writers because it forces pen to paper or fingers to keyboard. Below is an example of one of those writing prompt responses that I would have never just sat down and wrote. It ended up being a runner-up in that day’s contest! Responding to prompts makes writers think beyond what they may normally write without judging themselves (as much).

    Planets

    “I love you to Pluto and back!” Jason said lovingly, while on one knee grinning ear to ear and looking into Natalie’s eyes.

    “It’s to the Moon and back, goofball.”

    “No, it’s not. Pluto is far further than the Moon, and I love you more than the simple distance to the Moon.”

    Natalie couldn’t help but love this man. The past nine months she’d learned more about love than she had in the thirty years before. Jason, unafraid of his feelings, and unafraid of commitment and attachment. She’d never met anyone like him.

    “Where are you?’ he asked, sensing she had wandered off to another place, which she seemed to do quite often.

    “I’m right here, my love, just lost in thoughts. I haven’t gone anywhere; I’m still with you.”

    “Good, because I was thinking we should go grab a blanket and sit outside in this crisp air and stargaze for a while. Then I can show you how far Pluto is, so you’ll see how much I love you.”

    Natalie cooed, “I can’t think of a better way to spend our nine-month anniversary.”

    “Nine months? I thought it was nine days?” Jason smiled again, gazing at her mouth this time, and seemed expectant of an answer.

    “Nine months, nine days – who’s counting? I’ll get the blanket and lead the way to the best spot on the hill.”

    As they settled in together lying on their backs, bodies warm, close, and sharing heartbeats, he whispered in her ear, “Please tell me what you see.”

    “I see the man I want to spend the rest of my life with, Jason.”

    “I meant what do you see in the sky. But I do like your answer better.”

    On the nine-month anniversary since their first date, Jason committed to marry Natalie and take care of her for the rest of her life. And Natalie committed to loving a man forever who had no sight, but a heart that was out of this world.

    —

    Unfortunately, Writing.com no longer runs the 15 for 15 contest, but for anyone interested, here is Writing.com’s prompts link: Writing Prompts, Creative Writing Prompts, Prompts for Writers – Writing.Com. Set your timer for 15 minutes a day for 15 straight days and surprise yourself. If anyone has writing prompt thoughts or suggestions, please leave a comment!

  • The Man – or Woman – in the Arena

    148606-Theodore-Roosevelt-Quote-It-is-not-the-critic-who-countsMotivational speaker and business leader Mary Kelly asked, “What is the best coaching advice you remember? In sports, business, life?”

    I answered, “My Navy dad used to remind me of ‘The Man in the Arena’ quote. In other words, it’s easy for others to criticize when they are not in the thick of it. It has always stuck with me.”

    Earlier in the week, I had also referred to this same quote by former U.S. President Theodore Roosevelt in response to a different question.

    Then last night, looking through some old memorabilia, I came across a piece of paper my father sent me when I was stationed in Korea in the late 1980’s. It said:

    It is not the critic that counts, not the man who points how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the Arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great devotion; who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at worst, if he fails while daring greatly, knows that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.

    His handwriting below the quote said, “This is a quote from Teddy Roosevelt. Fawn Hall told Congress they should read it.”

    I figured there had to be a reason this quote appeared three times in one week. Was I needing a reminder? Was it a post-Father’s Day thought? Something else?

    My cousin told me family research revealed our great-grandfather was one of Teddy Roosevelt’s Sergeant Majors with the Rough Riders. Maybe that explains it.

    Whatever the reason, I felt compelled to share the sentiment of “The Man in the Arena” with others. If you have something to add to the conversation, please do!